Guys, you have waited until the wedding night to have sex. Maybe endured is more the word to describe your actions. It probably wouldn’t work well for you if you said something like this: All right, I jumped through all the hoops, now get naked and lay on the bed because now I get sex. That might describe how you would feel if she was the one in charge, if she was the one who made you both wait.
But for you guys who weren’t just passive this is the time when the waiting will start to pay off. When I say passive this is the guy who allows the girl to be the decision maker. If she wants sex, he will have sex. If she doesn’t want sex, he will use his little bag of tricks to try to get her to offer to have sex. But the guy who made a decision to wait, and helped both himself and the girl to wait, for that guy this is the time that it will pay off.
Guys, your body is going to start to heat up sexually. You will be a little heated up and then in a very short period of time you will get extremely hot and then cool way off. A girl’s body will heat up much more gradually, stay at the peak for a little while and then slowly cool back off. Neither one is right or wrong, it is just the way each body responds. Guys, you need to be able to find ways to control your body so that she has a chance to get heated up at least part of the time. If you can figure out how to do it, it will pay off big for you. If you can’t you will end up getting hot, going off, and cooling down, and she will only have warmed up a little. Guys that have sex like that can’t figure out why their wife isn’t interested in sex anymore.
Here is a little story about the 3 minute man and what kind of girl that works well for.
World War II. The big staging area was Honolulu Hawaii. Troops would be brought to Honolulu and then would wait for a transport ship to take them into the war zone. Hawaii was a US Territory at the time and not a state yet. The US put a military man in charge over the mayor of the city. He had the final say over anything that went on there. The guys had lots of time on their hands and prostitution was allowed if the girls worked out of approved locations and had periodic medical checkups. The normal enlisted guy got about $18 cash a month and that was his spending money. Sex with a prostitute cost Three Dollars. With demand increasing and supply staying the same, the girls wanted to charge more. The military guy in charge of Honolulu said no they couldn’t do that. It would take too much of the enlisted man’s money. The girls said they wouldn’t work anymore. A compromise was reached. Three dollars for three minutes. The girls went back to work and the guys lined up around the block for their three minute turn. Oh, the things we learn from the history channel. Some of the girls got very creative. They would have several rooms that had two doors. One you could enter from the hall, the other opened up into the room where she had the bed. The guys were instructed to get undressed and be ready when she came and opened the door. These waiting rooms started being called the bull pen. Both sides were satisfied with the deal.
Why did it work?
Guys you can go from cool to hot to cool in 3 minutes — that isn’t hard. For the prostitute, time is money. She will say you are the biggest or best and make sounds like she is really hot, but she is just trying to find what will speed you along. Guys leave the money on the dresser, and don’t let the door hit you on the way out.
Being a 3 minute man is useful if you want to help a prostitute turn more tricks in a night. It isn’t useful if you want to have sexual relations with your wife, and for that sexual relationship to help build your overall relationship with her.