Confidence

8:13-14 – The Me I want to be

Scripture Text: Song of Solomon 8:13-14

verses 13-14

Some of the translations have this stronger than others about coming away with me. She is saying come with me, we will leave the friends and companions and we will spend time together. Notice how she refers to her breasts as “spice-laden mountains” or “mountains of spices”. It isn’t that she has had breast implants since chapter one. Her description of her breasts has become stronger throughout the song. As her confidence rises, and her ability to give and receive love – physically, emotionally, mentally – increases, she becomes more confident in herself.

Final thoughts

Girls, I’d like to compare you to a bird – the eagle. I think you can reach great highs and be strong as an eagle. If you are a turkey, it would be fine for you to walk around with the other turkeys, and be thankful each year at thanksgiving if you lived through it and got by for another year. That would be ok. That would be as good as it gets.

But what if you are an eagle and you spend your time walking around with the turkeys. What if you settled for that? What if you settled for having a guy? A guy who was good enough, a guy who was better than nothing, a guy you can say ‘I could have done worse’ about.

I say: OWN THE BALL. Own your body and emotions and thoughts and your mind, your soul. Keep it until you have someone who is not willing to settle for good, but wants to go for great. Be someone who can see in Song of Solomon how great a relationship can be and is willing to plan and think and control themself, and work and learn. Someone who isn’t going to be passive but will be a leader in the relationship. Someone who sees you and himself as equals – different physically, emotionally and in many other ways, but still equal.

I think you want to wait for a guy who can say No to sex. A guy who can say no to other people because he wants to keep that for the one person he will have this great relationship with. A guy who can even say No to sex with you while you are dating and engaged.

Girls, I think you should dare to go for a great relationship and not sell yourself short. I’ll close this with a poem by Robert A. Schuller.

On the edge of a ledge
An eaglet stands, for it is time to fly.
That mighty bird has a destiny and so my Lord have I.
As the eagle is not content to stay
As levels safe, so I
On the edge of the ledge await thy will
Lord I was meant to fly.

Girls, Ladies, Women

Please don’t settle for walking around with the turkeys, don’t settle for good enough, when God has designed you to be a unique, incredible person. And if you have a relationship with a guy, God designed that so that it can be an amazing experience. Isaiah chapter 40 describes those who wait on the Lord, who do things in his timing, who do things his way.

God offers an abundant life,
A life to the full.
Accept his offer,
FLY WITH WINGS LIKE AN EAGLE.