In the last section they were flirting and starting to become a couple.
In this section they are a couple. They are thinking seriously about where the relationship is going. Each of them many be thinking different things.
- a relationship is good, this is all I want at the present time
- whatever the person is getting : sex, love, romance, a feeling of being in a relationship, that is enough for now. Let’s not think about the future.
- we need to move on to something more. Move on to marriage, move on to sex, move on to finding out more about the other person
You don’t get to freeze time for long. It is kind of like riding a bicycle. If you are moving forward it is easy to balance. But if you are stopped, it is much harder to stay balanced.
A relationship is like that. If you try to stop the relationship at a certain point and keep everything the same, it is much harder to maintain.
The enemy of Great is Good. So often we don’t reach out for Great, because it is good enough. Going for Great has risks. What if I don’t have sex now, and the other person leaves for someone else who will have sex. Or, what if I don’t have sex and they get hit by a bus and it never happens.
The risk is there. The reward is Great. The choice is up to you, and another person.
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