Terms come and go.
messing around, fooling around — these terms have been code for having sex
rock and roll — teenagers in the ’60s used this as code. Parents thought that it meant that disgusting loud music and they couldn’t understand the lyrics to. Teenagers meant it as a description of getting the most penetration while having sex — she rocked, he rolled. If that isn’t enough description, don’t worry about it, just know that it was code for sex.
Hooking up became code for — let’s have sex with no commitment, no strings, no relationship, no expectations. You didn’t even need to be friends.
You may think that you are doing it in secret, but it finds a way to come back and get you. Guys if you think this is working, you need to realize that the girls will share information with each other. Either he is bad at it, kind of ok, or useful at doing something they want. You are going to get rated and you will have to keep finding new girls. Girls you won’t be left out. The guys will rate you on how easy it is to get you.
What is done is secret, will be shared in public.