When our daughters were playing basketball in junior high, I coached them with my wife. She taught at the school, and I would come in for practices and games. One day two of the girls on the team were talking with me, and one of them said “I would never want to be married to the same person for twenty years. That would be too boring.” I agreed with her and said “I wouldn’t want to be married to the same person for twenty years either.” She started getting a funny expression on her face and doing some math in her head, and said, “But what about your wife?” My reply was that yes I’d been married to my wife for twenty years, but she was a much different person than the one I’d married. If she had stayed the same, it would have been oh so boring.
I’ve heard it stated:
She knew what I was like when we got married so she shouldn’t expect me to change. It was about something stupid like tossing his clothes on the floor in whatever room he was in and expecting her to pick them up. True, you really can’t change the other person, and you can irritate them greatly if you try. But if you don’t plan on learning or growing or changing and improving over time, don’t be surprised that the person you married changes and improves and you grow apart as the years go by.