Read the story. See if there is an application to your relationship.
My Dad would make pancakes every Saturday. He had a dog that loved pancakes that would do all kinds of tricks to get the pancakes. Lie down, roll over, speak, shake hands — the dog would do all of these for a little piece of pancake. When my twin daughters were three, he would give them the piece of pancake and tell them what command to give, and the dog would perform the trick for them, and then they would give the dog the piece of pancake.
Girls. Do you train your guy to do things for you, and then offer them a reward? A reward like a kiss, a hug, intercourse, using your mouth or hand to get him stimulated. Whatever the reward, does he know that when you tell him to do a certain thing for you, that he will get a reward? And that that is the only way he gets the rewards.
Well, I have to say it will work — initially. But then it will work too well. He will be so well trained that someone else can offer him the rewards and he will perform tasks for them.
Using sex as a reward takes you down a bumpy road that doesn’t tend to end well.