I’ll spend time with you doing things you want to do.
I’ll leave her and be with you when …..
I’ll take you out and spend money on you when …..
These can sound good.
you would like it if it happened.
He might actually believe what he is saying.
But, does he follow through? Does he do what he says he will do?
He is saying, You do this now, and I’ll do something later.
Does later ever come?
Let him clean up his situation. Only then should you consider giving him a chance.
But watch out for the pattern in other areas of his life. He wants to get stuff now, and worry about paying for it later.