What is the formula to go from a single 13 year old, to a person who waits to have sex, and then gets married?
- dating one on one
- group dating or events
- arranged marriage
- never touch each other
I don’t know.
Some people will tell you that Song of Solomon talks about love, sex, romance, marriage, and relationship and then give you the 10 steps to dating, or a bunch of rules about dancing or going to movies, or being alone. But it isn’t that easy. It isn’t that simple.
When she warns about not awakening love until it’s time when she is just starting to be a couple, she is saying to slow down on the love and sex. It feels right to be with this guy, but you don’t have much to base it on yet. She is fantasizing about laying next to him and having him grope (fondle, embrace, pick your translation) her. But she knows that is moving too fast.
One principle to follow: the less sensual, the less sex drive, the less that you would enjoy sex, the more you can do before you get married without just sliding across the line.
If you have ever been on a slippery surface — an asphalt shingle roof, an icy sidewalk that slopes, a road with a little sand and gravel on it — think how easy it was to lose your balance and go sliding. Then think if you were with someone else and they started sliding and you tried to help. Both people usually end up going down.
So guys if you are hot blooded, have a strong sexual drive, give yourself more room for error.
Girls, if hugging and kissing and touching gets you excited, give yourself some room for error.
And if the guy is well built, and the girl has a great body — give yourselves more room.
Sorry, no easy formula.
But if you want a great relationship, you have to give up some things that could seem good at the time.