1.5 Dark am I, but lovely, O young women of Jerusalem,
like tents darkened, but like curtain of Solomon.
6 Do not stare at me because I am dark,
because the sun has gazed upon me.
The sons of my mother burned in anger toward me.
They appointed me caretaker of the vineyards,
But of my own vineyard which belongs to me I have not taken care.
7 Tell me, you whom my soul loves
where you graze your flock where you rest them at noon:
for why should I be like a veiled woman by the flocks of your close friends.
She is looking for a compliment.
Did he have to use the ‘L’ word I LOVE YOU, to get sex?
Did she give sex to get compliments?
You can sugar coat it, and deny it, and justify it,
but it comes down to this.
The guy wants to touch, feel and use her body.
The girls wants to feel like she has a relationship,
that she is desirable, and loved.
They make a tradeoff, usually an unspoken agreement.
They are using each other,
and although it seems to start out right,
it ends up with “you are just using me”
and now it is a bad thing.
Watch out. This trap leaves you feeling guilty and used at the same time.