1.1 The Song of Songs, which is Solomon’s
1.2 How I wish he would kiss me with the kisses of his mouth
because your lovemaking is better than wine
1.3 For fragrance your perfumes are wonderful,
and perfume poured fragrantly is your name.
Therefore young maidens love you.
1.4 Draw me after you! Let us run together!
How I wish the king would bring me to his chambers!
Becoming a Couple
This is the stage where two people are interested in each other and are starting to focus in on that one person.
- Not engaged
- No commitment to see only that person
- Definitely interested in seeing where it could go
- Still in the flirting period
- Being careful what they say
- Still concerned that other people will try to jump in and break up the relationship they are starting to have
So you don’t do it like the couple in Song of Solomon.
You make up your own rules.
Without any kind of commitment,
you launch into having sex.
Does it work kind of like this?
You have sex. He falls asleep.
If you could read his mind, it might be something like this.
Cool, I had sex.
How quickly can I leave.
She is ok, but she is easy. Not the type I’d have a long term meaningful relationship with.
What would she be thinking.
What does this mean? As is how does this fit in with all of my life, my friends.
When is he going to ask me to marry him or move in with him
What will we name our kids?
Wow, three minutes of joy for him. I didn’t realize 3 minute could seem that long.
And if she decides she doesn’t like him.
Would I really want to settle for him?
I’ll say I was drunk and don’t remember what happened.
Or, it was a mistake, let’s be friends.
Getting physical is the quickest way to get instant gratification.
and the worse way to build any kind of a real relationship.
Even if it ends up in marriage it isn’t good in the long run.
I’ve heard many people that are married say,
I felt like we had to get married because we had sex, or we had sex and she got pregnant.
I wanted to do the right thing — all at once you decide to do the ‘right’ thing.
We ‘had’ to get married.
Whatever the reason, they didn’t go into marriage based on a decision, but as a reaction
to what they had been doing.
Do some of these couples stay together?
Yes, but they are high risk to blow apart. They each have a built in excuse
to find the right person, and dump the one they are with for this new person.
This doesn’t sound like a good path to be on.