Why did you have sex? I desired emotional closeness

Why did you have sex?  I desired emotional closeness
Maybe you want to think about the reasons given.  Do they make sense for you ?
— learn from the mistakes of others, you can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.
Emotional closeness in the right situation is good.  Emotional closeness in the wrong situation will hurt more than you can imagine.  Say you have sex, and you feel emotionally close to the other person.  That doesn’t mean that they feel the same thing.  They could be having sex with you for over  200 other reasons.  After sex you are feeling this strong bond.  After sex they are feeling like it was good to enjoy the physical without having to feel any bonds or ties.
If you try to use sex to create emotional closeness, you are more likely to create a feeling of emotional emptiness.
Reasons why people have sex
Most of the reasons given for having sex are from a list that Dr Cindy Meston and Dr David M Buss compiled from a survey they took.  Their list provided 232 reasons.
Compare this to the advice is Song of Solomon
She was flirting with the guy and getting turned on — Wait
She was serious about the guy and ready to make it permanent — Wait.
The guy was the one who was taking the lead in waiting.
Married, committed –Go for it and Enjoy it.
After a fight and make up sex — go for it and Supercharge it.
You will never get to Great Sex until it involves your heart, soul, mind and strength.  And until you love the other person as much as you love yourself.  All of this has to apply to the other person too.  Two people all the way into the relationship or it will never make it to great.