Maybe you want to think about the reasons given. Do they make sense for you ?
— learn from the mistakes of others, you can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.
Feeling closer to God is good. Trying to get there through sex can be a problem.
If you want to feel close to God, find out what he wants, what he likes. One thing I know for sure is that God wants good for you, not harm. And as a husband and wife get closer to each other and they each get closer to God, then sex can be part of feeling closer to God.
Without that commitment to each other you are just making up your own rules about God, and the feeling isn’t based on any facts for evidence. That feeling will leave.
In the same way the feelings of closeness will leave when the other person leaves. You can’t force something to be true based on your feelings. Don’t give up on growing closer to God and feeling closer to him. Sex isn’t what will accomplish that goal.
Reasons why people have sex
Most of the reasons given for having sex are from a list that Dr Cindy Meston and Dr David M Buss compiled from a survey they took. Their list provided 232 reasons.
Compare this to the advice is Song of Solomon She was flirting with the guy and getting turned on — Wait
She was serious about the guy and ready to make it permanent — Wait.
The guy was the one who was taking the lead in waiting.
Married, committed –Go for it and Enjoy it.
After a fight and make up sex — go for it and Supercharge it.
You will never get to Great Sex until it involves your heart, soul, mind and strength. And until you love the other person as much as you love yourself. All of this has to apply to the other person too. Two people all the way into the relationship or it will never make it to great.