Maybe you want to think about the reasons given. Do they make sense for you ? — learn from the mistakes of others, you can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.
Getting rid of aggression is usually best accomplished as an individual event. Hitting a boxing bag, swimming or running until you can’t go any more. i would go to a park and kick a soccer ball, run to where it ended up and kick it again. About 30 minutes of this would be enough to take my aggressions out.
But trying to use sex to do it seems tricky. It involves another person. If you are taking out your aggressions, what are they doing? Are they being submissive because they are afraid of what you might do? Do they have low self esteem and think that it is worth it to be able to say that they are in a relationship with someone? Or did you just find someone handy to use?
This seems like a heads you win, tails they lose type of situation. On the surface it seems like a good idea for you.
Compare this to the advice in Song of Solomon
She was flirting with the guy and getting turned on — Wait
She was serious about the guy and ready to make it permanent — Wait.
The guy was the one who was taking the lead in waiting.
Married, committed –Go for it and Enjoy it.
After a fight and make up sex — go for it and Supercharge it.
You will never get to Great Sex until it involves your heart, soul, mind and strength. And until you love the other person as much as you love yourself. All of this has to apply to the other person too. Two people all the way into the relationship or it will never make it to great.
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