Maybe you want to think about the reasons given. Do they make sense for you ?
— learn from the mistakes of others, you can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.
Think about that one.
If you are willing to cheat on your current partner to get a ‘better‘ one, would you be willing to cheat on the better one to move up again? The ‘better‘ one will eventually know that you dumped someone to be with them. Why wouldn’t you do that to them.
There was a guy who worked the same place that I work. He had dumped his first wife to marry his secretary. I never saw the first wife, but the ‘secretary turned wife’ would show up at work occasionally to make sure that his current secretary didn’t try the same thing. Actually, he had something going with the new secretary, but he died before he had a chance to swap out wife number two.
Sure, sure that happened to them but I’m so special it won’t happen to me. I’ve heard that, but here is the problem. You are special and valuable and worthy of respect. But a guy operating like this has to keep moving on — new conquests, new women in his life. He is charming up front, but when you get to know him his charm fades away. It isn’t about you, it is all about him.
Compare this to the advice in Song of Solomon
She was flirting with the guy and getting turned on — Wait
She was serious about the guy and ready to make it permanent — Wait.
The guy was the one who was taking the lead in waiting. Married, committed –Go for it and Enjoy it. After a fight and make up sex — go for it and Supercharge it.
You will never get to Great Sex until it involves your heart, soul, mind and strength. And until you love the other person as much as you love yourself. All of this has to apply to the other person too. Two people all the way into the relationship or it will never make it to great.
Reasons why people have sex Most of the reasons given for having sex are from a list that Dr Cindy Meston and Dr David M Buss compiled from a survey they took. Their list provided 232 reasons.