Why did you have sex? It just happened

Why did you have sex?  It just happened

Maybe you want to think about the reasons given.  Do they make sense for you ?

— learn from the mistakes of others, you can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.

If you are walking in a store and didn’t see the spill, then you fell, it would be valid to say “It just happened”.

If sex just happened, what was going on before that moment?  Maybe you were alone with this person — ok I hope you were alone with this person, and then what?  Some kissing some touching and at some point the clothes had to come off.  Wouldn’t it be useful if you knew at what point you are at the point of no return?  That if you get far that sex will just happened.  Then you can give yourself some boundaries — If I get to this point, I stop.  Then sex won’t just happen.

Of course you would have to take responsibility for your actions and wouldn’t be able to use this excuse.  But, think about when someone uses this “it just happened” excuse about anything.  What thoughts about that person come to mind  — weak, naive, inexperienced.  Try some other excuse.

Reasons why people have sex
Most of the reasons given for having sex are from a list that Dr Cindy Meston and Dr David M Buss compiled from a survey they took.  Their list provided 232 reasons.

Compare this to the advice is Song of Solomon
She was flirting with the guy and getting turned on — Wait
She was serious about the guy and ready to make it permanent — Wait.
The guy was the one who was taking the lead in waiting.
Married, committed –Go for it and Enjoy it.
After a fight and make up sex — go for it and Supercharge it.

You will never get to Great Sex until it involves your heart, soul, mind and strength.  And until you love the other person as much as you love yourself.  All of this has to apply to the other person too.  Two people all the way into the relationship or it will never make it to great.