Maybe you want to think about the reasons given. Do they make sense for you ?
— learn from the mistakes of others, you can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.
Yes it is. But is it exciting and adventurous in a good way?
Jumping out of a plane is described as exciting and adventurous. That is people who had parachutes on that opened describe it that way. Those who jump and their parachute doesn’t open don’t usually live to describe the terror that they felt when they realized they were going to hit the ground with a great deal of speed. Occasionally someone jumps, the parachute fails to open properly and they survive. I’ve read about someone who landed in a hay stack, another who landed on a snow covered slope and one who landed in a sewage treatment area. She broke both ankles and was stuck in excrement up to her neck, but she did survive. None of them were talking eagerly about jumping again.
Is the excitement and adventure about sex, or about the other person? Or is it about doing something you aren’t supposed to do, with someone you aren’t supposed to do it with? Or doing it somewhere you aren’t suppose to do it?
If you are having sex with the person you are married to, you can make it exciting and adventurous. But it is like having a parachute. You can land softly.
If you go to an amusement park and ride a thrill ride, it is exciting and adventurous. But if you get hurt on the thrill ride, don’t your thoughts turn to suing the park. With sex, if you end up feeling hurt, there isn’t much you can do about it. The whole ‘consenting adult’ thing takes away much chance of suing anyone.
The thrill may be gone, but the pain can go on for a long time.
Reasons why people have sex
Most of the reasons given for having sex are from a list that Dr Cindy Meston and Dr David M Buss compiled from a survey they took. Their list provided 232 reasons.
Compare this to the advice is Song of Solomon She was flirting with the guy and getting turned on — Wait She was serious about the guy and ready to make it permanent — Wait. The guy was the one who was taking the lead in waiting. Married, committed –Go for it and Enjoy it. After a fight and make up sex — go for it and Supercharge it.
You will never get to Great Sex until it involves your heart, soul, mind and strength. And until you love the other person as much as you love yourself. All of this has to apply to the other person too. Two people all the way into the relationship or it will never make it to great.